Boss or Leader – Which Are You?

boss-leaderAre you a Boss or a Leader?

You may recognise your employer and those in management positions.

A boss is someone who tells people what to do, bosses them around. Employees usually work out of fear and not respect. Mainly fear of upsetting the boss and therefore getting fired. You may recognise people in your organisation that live off the backs of others and don’t do much themselves, other than give orders and always looking for an easy ride.  They usually use fluffy words and turn the conversation to actions of others, rather than being accountable and sharing themselves.

A real LEADER is someone who leads by example. They are prepared to ‘get off their high horse’ and get their hands dirty, to both learn how a job in an organisation is done – as well as show others how it is done.
Leading by example brings you real respect. People will follow you because you know where you are going (by being at the front) and they know that you are all on the same journey together.

Many ‘lazy’ people aspire to be a boss and do nothing.

Why not choose to be a Leader and be respected instead for putting energy into everything you do….

The Wisdom of Bruce Lee: 25 Quotes on Mastery, Martial Arts & Consciousness

bruce-lee-plateau“Bruce Lee was a phenomenon. When he emerged into stardom in the early 1970′s, the world was blown away. A martial artist at the top of his form, a captivating presence on film and in person, he was humble, intelligent and well spoken, a combination that successfully shattered the one-dimensional stereotype of the Chinese people as portrayed in Hollywood cinema up to that point. Obsessively driven, he accomplished more in his short 32 years than most do in their entire lifetime, his fame growing to an iconic level after his death in 1973. In 1999 he was named one of Time Magazine’s most influential people of the 20th century, and the awards, honours and accolades he received, both while living and posthumously, remain too numerous to name here.

He was also a philosopher and a poet. Though less well-known, this side of his personality undoubtedly played a large role in the near-mystical qualities many claim he brought to his life and work. In the creation of Jeet Kune Do, his personal style of martial arts, Lee shed many of the traditional techniques of the fore-running schools in an effort to distill and improve upon the core elements therein, creating a style more in line with the flow of life itself. His personal philosophy was no less controversial. Influenced by much of the wisdom from the east, he nonetheless held no doctrine as the sole arbiter of truth, didn’t possess a belief in a higher power and claimed freedom from limitation as the highest liberation. Beyond doubt, a self-made man.”

Here, then, are 25 of his most famous quotes. True to form, they are short, simple and direct in their wisdom.

  • Man, the living creature, the creating individual, is always more important than any established style or system.
  • What you habitually think largely determines what you will ultimately become.
  • Take no thought of who is right or wrong or who is better than. Be not for or against.
  • Reality is apparent when one ceases to compare. — There is “what is” only when there is no comparison at all, and to live with what is, is to be peaceful.
  • A good teacher protects his pupils from his own influence.
  • To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person.
  • Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.
  • If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.
  • Do not deny the classical approach, simply as a reaction, or you will have created another pattern and trapped yourself there.
  •  Real living is living for others.
  • I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.
  • Many people dedicate their lives to actualizing a concept of what they should be like, rather than actualizing themselves. This difference between self-actualization and self-image actualization is very important. Most people live only for their image.
  • It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.
  • The stillness in stillness is not the real stillness; only when there is stillness in movement does the universal rhythm manifest.
  • As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.
  • A good martial artist does not become tense, but ready. Not thinking, yet not dreaming. Ready for whatever may come. When the opponent expands, I contract; and when he contracts, I expand. And when there is an opportunity, “I” do not hit, “it” hits all by itself.
  • If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Moving, be like water. Still, be like a mirror. Respond like an echo.
  • Things live by moving and gain strength as they go.
  • Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.
  • A wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer.
  • If you don’t want to slip up tomorrow, speak the truth today.
  • A quick temper will make a fool of you soon enough.
  • The knowledge and skills you have achieved are meant to be forgotten so you can float comfortably in emptiness, without obstruction.
  •  If you want to learn to swim jump into the water. On dry land no frame of mind is ever going to help you.
  • If there is a God, he is within. You don’t ask God to give you things, you depend on God for your inner theme.
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The Hidden Dynamics That Inspire Leadership and Trust – Simon Sinek

Simon-Sinek-leaders-eat-lastGreat lessons on Leadership. How to build trust and connection with people around you.

I felt it was a great video and wanted to share it with you.

Email is great for exchange of information, phoning and meeting people is actually better. It shows you care and prepared to put time and energy into your communication and relationships.  I meet up with friends as often as possible and give people my time.
At times it is quicker/easier to reach a lot of people via email or other mass media.  This connection is weaker but I still hope you value it and take time to watch the video to benefit yourself and those around you.

People feel more comfortable around those they can trust in an organisation/team/family/company and know they’ve got their back. Do you feel this way around your colleagues? What about companies you deal with? Are they looking out for themselves only or for your interests? Do they give others credit or try to steal credit from them because they don’t feel safe?
Groups like this cause stress and cortisol, which makes people self-interested, less empathic and less generous – only caring about themselves.  This has a negative knock-on affect to those around them.

Leadership is not a rank or position in an organisation, it is about a decision to look after the people around you.

Watch the video and meet your Happy chemicals: endorphins, dopamine, seratonin and oxytocin

Remember, I got your back!

Bobby :-)


In this in-depth talk, ethnographer and leadership expert Simon Sinek reveals the hidden dynamics that inspire leadership and trust. In biological terms, leaders get the first pick of food and other spoils, but at a cost. When danger is present, the group expects the leader to mitigate all threats even at the expense of their personal well-being. Understanding this deep-seated expectation is the key difference between someone who is just an “authority” versus a true “leader.”

A trained ethnographer and the author of Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action, Simon Sinek has held a life-long curiosity for why people and organizations do the things they do. Studying the leaders and companies that make the greatest impact in the world and achieve a more lasting success than others, he discovered the formula that explains how they do it.

Sinek’s amazingly simple idea, The Golden Circle, is grounded in the biology of human decision-making and is changing how leaders and companies think and act.

His innovative views on business and leadership have earned him invitations to meet with an array of leaders and organizations, including Microsoft, Dell, SAP, Intel, Chanel, Members of the United States Congress, and the Ambassadors of Bahrain and Iraq.Sinek recently became an adjunct staff member of the RAND Corporation, one of the most highly regarded think tanks in the world. He also works with the non-profit Education for Employment Foundation to help create opportunities for young men and women in the Middle East region. He lives in New York, where he teaches graduate level strategic communications at Columbia University.

For more on this topic, check out Sinek’s latest book Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don’t.

Rich Dad Predictions – The Good, The Bad and The Opportunities (2014)

dilbert-creator-heres-why-i-predicted-market-manipulators-will-make-the-stock-market-crash-20The three things you should work hard for in life are:
1) Health
2) Wealth
3) Happiness

The following are notes I made from (and expanded on) Rich Dad Robert Kiyosaki’s 2014 Predictions webinar earlier this year.

- Robert says in the next 5-20 years a Massive correction in the stock market.
Well in my opinion even a broken clock is right twice a day, so allowing himself such a big period to be right.
Although those with market linked pensions and other long term investments DO need to pay attention NOW, else in 5-20 years they will see the inevitable happen, as predicted.
So 2019 is the date, which will be here very soon.
(I believe the market will dip before mid-2014)

Stock market is rigged and insiders depend on it, so trying to keep it that way. Beware of financial planners/advisors, as they are just sales people, not real investors.

A market ‘Investor’ has a ‘buy and hold’ strategy that benefits the brokers and market makers, who make money whether you win or lose.

- Traders go with the market, Traders aren’t concerned about controlling the market, they are concerned about controlling their position.

Unsustainable resources, such as peak oil.
A lot of manipulation is happening, trust yourself if something doesn’t seem right.

Everything comes from the earth, then at the top of the pyramid is the paper derivative which is the most risky.  That is where everyone is.
Stocks, bonds, mutual funds, pensions (US 401K) will lose the most and the fastest, with electronic trading. 90% of population will get wiped out financially.
Also your house is not an asset.

- If you’re not prepared for upcoming market correction, you still have time to do so.

- Bucky Fuller said in the industrial age you could see change coming – but you can’t see it coming today!

People are now doubling up and up to 3 generations are starting to live in one home again.

- Understanding the relationship between a “policy” and a “demographic” will help predict the future.
eg. Baby boomers are going to all retire at the same time and need health care.
More people pulling out of the stock market than going in.

Tax laws show what the policy is, Govt makes tax allowances to make people put money where they want it.
Currently Govt wants investors to provide ‘low cost housing’ so benefits are there.

In business investment a cap rate is a return a business will provide for the investment you put in.
In stock market this is called the P/E ratio (stock price/earnings per share), which has traditionally been 13/14, now at 19 ratio, giving less value than usual.

Financial advisors aren’t educated in the market, similar to mortgage brokers, who are trained to sell you a product and make a commission versus being investors/traders themselves.
Also most accountants only understand maths, not making money.
- Ask the what they are studying!

- When the market crash hits, most people will be wiped out because of their lack of financial education.

- Most people don’t address their financial issues because they are intimidated by what they don’t know.

- Advice isn’t education. Be sure to work with those who can teach you what you need to know.

There are three levels of wealth:
1) Primary (real resources like fish, oil, gold)
2) Entrepreneurs (get the resources and use them)
3) Paper (stocks, bonds, mutual funds, savings)

Price of oil and resources is always going up.

- The financial crash will be quick and massive due to exponential progression/change.
(The bull goes up the stairs, the bear goes out the window!)

Entrepreneurship is best place to be and get in a business that you can do well in during an up and down market!

Most people in stock market and property/real estate are relying on false security of prices going up.

- When the financial environment changes, you need to be able to change with it.

Robert is now a ‘prepper’ as well. Financial preparation, ask “how can I protect my situation”?
Have friends you can count on. Make sure have food, water and defences/guns. Get prepared and stocked up.

- When investing in property/real estate, take into consideration what industries and economies will affect your investment.

Energy, healthcare, technology and education are four industries that are growing.

- Migration drives real estate prices.

Read “Shaping Our Nation” by Michael Barone if based in the USA, as it’s about US migration and politics.

Taxes are going to go up.

- Rethink your position in the stock market.

- When it comes to investing, it’s never too late to start.

- You are ultimately responsible for your money. Take action!

- Make your financial well-being one of your top priorities.
People say they are too busy with work, career, family, children etc…

- Think ‘preparation’ instead of ‘panic’

Derivative are mass weapons of financial destruction.
In 2007, there were $700 trillion of derivatives, which caused the crash (not sub-prime).
Now in 2014, derivative market is $1.2 quadrillion, which is waiting to be triggered!!

Those who have lost it all have to go back to zero and start again – with 1-bed flat, with a small business.
Taken it easy all their life, being an employee, saving and investing in stocks as they’ve been told.
Not qualified to play the game in the future.
You can only handle things in the PRESENT!

Your greatest asset is your brain, your mind and your friends.

The more you know, the more you realise you don’t know!
Continue to study, get more information and listen to different people.

There is a difference between spending and investing.

Difference between education and a sales pitch:
Sales pitch only gives you the good side,
eg: go to school and get a secure job (= pay more in taxes and feed the system)
OR put your money in the bank to get interest (= get little in interest and inflation runs much higher)
EDUCATION gives you BOTH sides, the good and the bad!

When you study the data, you start to see the trends.

Read books; study; learn; get a coach; take action. Do something.

Recommended reading Prophecy (by Robert Kiyosaki) and The Crash Course (by Chris Martensen)

Below is an audiobook version of Rich Dad’s Prophecy on Youtube

20 Transformational Truths Form Sages Throughout the Ages

Throughout the ages, there have been many who have had gotten a taste of incredibly mesmerizing higher states of consciousness. Rather than keep their experiential knowledge and wisdom about the higher and deeper elements of existence to themselves they spread the word to others, be it through spoken word, written works, or other methods. Thanks to the sages, luminaries, spiritual teachers, thinkers, and every-day people who had an enlightening experience we can ignite the light of expanded awareness about the higher and deeper aspects of the human experience and of existence itself from such people. When the future looks bleak and the motivation to excel and advance seems pointless we can look up to those who have lived and are still alive who possess that inner wisdom which they had realized through their own personal experiences of an enlightened state of awareness.

The transformational truths that such guiding lights to humanity express to us can raise our level of hope once more to the domain of energy that makes us more proactive. Reignited excitement and passion can drive us closer to the successes we imagined and dreamed would come true. We are all capable of incredible feats. Ask yourself if your state of mind is stopping you from realizing that realized life success story that you undoubtedly had played within your head so many times before.

Don’t let it stay a dream, let it become a reality. Living in the 21st century of our archaic timeline we have the amazing opportunity to taste such consciousness-shifting words of wisdom and we will take a look at 20 such enlightening truths from sages throughout the ages. Allow for these timeless words nourish your mind, heart and soul.

Transformational Truth 1
A human being is a part of a whole, called by us a universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest … a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.
Albert Einstein

Transformational Truth 2
You should be an island to yourself, a refuge to yourself, not dependent on any other but taking refuge in the truth and none other than the truth. And how do you become an island and a refuge to yourself? In this way. You see and contemplate your body as composed of all the forces of the universe. Ardently and mindfully you steer your body-self by restraining your discontent with the world about you. In the same way, observe and contemplate your feelings and use that same ardent restraint and self-possession against enslavement by greed or desire. By seeing attachment to your body and feelings as blocking the truth, you dwell in self-possession and ardent liberation from those ties. This is how you live as an island to yourself and a refuge to yourself. Whoever dwells in this contemplation, islanded by the truth and taking refuge in the truth–that one will come out of the darkness and into the light.
The Digha Nikaya

Transformational Truth 3
“Life is what you make it,” this is very true.
Find beauty and magic in all things,
and the Love that sees you through.
When you look at the world where you live,
seek not your gain, but what you can give.
When a man is poor, and hungers, and thirsts,
serve not yourself til you serve this man first.
When a man is down and seeks shelter from cold, give him shelter.
You’ll receive blessings untold.
Live by the Golden Rule:
Do unto others as you’d have done unto you.
And always remember:
When you destroy, you destroy a part of you, too.
Life is what you make of it!

Transformational Truth 4
Loving this world, seeing the beauty in everything.
Appreciating every moment as a beautiful, wholly contained,
pearl of eternal nature, this is the world to me.
A never ending string of pearls…. every moment is in and of it’s self a life time,
and when we have affection and let ourselves experience life without expectation…
that is when the majesty of the world opens her petals to us…
And welcomes us home.
Carlos Castaneda

Transformational Truth 5
We may liken truth to a mountain, and the various interpretations of that truth to different paths leading up to the summit. Many people are traveling along all of these paths and every one, while he is at the bottom, thinks his path is the only one; he sees only a small part of the mountain, and may therefore be justified in crying to his brothers, “You are wrong! Come over to my path; this is the only one that leads to the top.” But as all these people progress upward, they will see that the paths converge at the top and that they are all one in the ultimate.
Max Heindel

Transformational Truth 6
Stop attributing names and shapes to the essentially nameless and formless, realize that every mode of perception is subjective, that what is seen or heard, touched or smelled, felt or thought,expected or imagined, is in the mind and not in reality, and you will experience peace and freedom from fear.
Nisargadatta Maharaj

Transformational Truth 7
Do not believe anything
because it is said by an authority,
or if it is said to come from angels,
or from gods,
or from an inspired source.
Believe it only if you have explored it
in your own heart
and mind and body
and found it to be true.
Work out your own path,
through diligence.
Gautama Buddha

Transformational Truth 8
Every man has his woman within him and every woman has her man within her. Only the meditator comes to know his whole being. Suddenly his inner woman and the inner man melt and merge into each other. That creates an orgasmic state in him. Now it is no more a momentary experience that comes and goes; it is something that continues, day in and day out, like the heart beating or breathing.

Transformational Truth 9
When you find the way
Others will find you
Passing by on the road
They will be drawn to your door
The way that cannot be heard
will be reflected in your voice
The way that cannot be seen
Will be reflected in your eyes
Lao Tzu

Transformational Truth 10
When we experience the pain of another person, we instinctively want to take away that pain. But by taking away the other person’s pain, we also take away his or her opportunity to grow. To be truly compassionate, we must be able to share another person’s suffering and pain — knowing there is nothing we can do to relieve it and that we are not responsible for it, and yet knowing and understanding what that pain feels like.
John Gray

Transformational Truth 11
How people see the world is often a reflection of how they see themselves. If they think that the world is just a cesspool of lies and deceit, then they themselves may be full of lies and deceit. Watch out for those people who are always telling you just how corrupt the rest of the world is. As the saying goes, “It takes one to know one.”
David J. Lieberman

Transformational Truth 12

Throw away holiness and wisdom,
and people will be a hundred times happier.
Throw away morality and justice,
and people will do the right thing.
Throw away industry and profit,
and there won’t be any thieves.
If these three aren’t enough,
just stay at the center of the circle
and let all things take their course
Lao Tzu

Transformational Truth 13

Ego is a structure that is erected by a neurotic individual who is a member of a neurotic culture against the facts of the matter. And culture, which we put on like an overcoat, is the collectivized consensus about what sort of neurotic behaviors are acceptable.
Terence McKenna

Transformational Truth 14

Keep your thoughts positive, because your thoughts become your words.
Keep your words positive, because your words become your behaviors.
Keep your behaviors positive, because your behaviors become your habits.
Keep your habits positive, because your habits become your values.
Keep your values positive, because your values become your destiny.

Transformational Truth 15

All the forms of Life in the Universe may be looked upon as being manifestations of the One and Universal Principle of Life in various forms; the whole of the Cosmos, being a product of the Universal Mind, may be regarded as universal, absolute consciousness becoming relative in separate forms. The universal consciousness of the Universal Mind forms spiritual centres of consciousness in living beings, whereby each being may feel and know its surroundings; and as the kind of living beings expands, their consciousness and power of sensation and perception expand with it; for all their powers belong to the mind. and not to the body: the latter without the mind is merely a form without life.
Franz Hartmann

Transformational Truth 16

If we understood the power of our thoughts, we would guard them more closely.
If we understood the awesome power of our words, we would prefer silence to almost anything negative.
In our thoughts and words we create our own weaknesses and our own strengths.
Our limitations and joys begin in our hearts.
We can always replace negative with positive. Bettie Eadie

Transformational Truth 17

Since time without beginning, the nature of Awakened Mind and Emptiness has consisted of the same, absolute non-duality of no birth or death, no existence or non-existence, no purity or impurity, no movement or stillness, no young or old, no inside or outside, no shape and form, no sound and color. Neither striving nor searching, one should not use intellect to understand nor words to express Awakened Mind. One should not think that it is a place or things, name or form. One should not think that it is a place or things, name or form. Only then is it realized that all Buddhas, Bodhisattvas and sentient beings possess the same natural state of great Nirvana.
Huang Po

Transformational Truth 18

As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery. We have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace. The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger and attachment, fear and suspicion, while love and compassion, a sense of universal responsibility are the sources of peace and happiness.
Dalai Lama

Transformational Truth 19

There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.

John Lennon

Transformational Truth 20

Greet everyone you meet with a warm smile, no matter how busy you are.
Don’t rush encounters with coworkers, family and friends.
Speak softly. Listen attentively.
Act as if every conversation you have is the most important thing on your mind today.
Look your children and your partner in the eyes when they talk to you.
Stroke the cat, caress the dog.
Lavish love on every living being you meet.
See how different you feel at the end of the day.
Sarah Ban Breathnach