How To Have Better Luck This Month / Year

Well as the New Year is upon us, many will be reflecting on the past and thinking about their hopes for the future.  Too many people will be looking back and thinking what they didn’t achieve, do or make happen last year and feel disappointed.

It is all a matter of perspective though. Do you really want to think about what went ‘wrong’!?

What if you focus on what you DID achieve, do and make happen?
Wouldn’t you then be grateful for everything instead…

This is something that Dr John Demartini posted that you should read carefully and meditate upon.

“As you reflect on 2015, think about what you have accomplished during the course of this year. It is wise to think of what you have achieved in the different areas of your life.
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Exercise:
1. Spiritually what have you achieved?
2. Vocationally what have you achieved?
3. Mentally what have you achieved?
4. Financially what have you achieved?
5. Familial what have you achieved?
6. Physically what have you achieved?
7. Socially what have you achieved?”

Do you now see how successful your year actually was? The great things that DID happen and achievements that make you happy when you think about them.

Let’s talk about NOW! Note how this post is title “How To Have Better Luck THIS Month”
People tend to make plans for the future, then when it is time to do something, they fail to take the right actions. How familiar does this sound… “Tomorrow (next week/month) I will do X”?
I used to be a first class procrastinator, so I know from experience. How does “Now I will do X” feel?

Also ‘luck’ is a completely different subject which I’ll cover another time – for now you’ll just have to create it with some decisions, commitment and a little work.

Instead, ask yourself if what you are ask-yourselfdoing today is getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow. The actions don’t have to be huge or drastic, they just need to be in alignment with what you really want.

Of course it’s good to make plans for the future to know where you’re going but you need to take the right steps regularly as well.  So if there is something you want to achieve, why not START today…

Let’s look at 3 areas that people are usually concerned about and the language they use.

– Health
– “I want to lose weight” or “I want to get fit”
Is that what they really mean? Do they believe if they lose x lbs/kgs they will be happier?
Do they see ‘fit’ as the (fake) or extremely ‘perfect’ people on TV and magazines?
Maybe thinking about it as “I want to be healthy” would be better…
This way the focus is on a healthy lifestyle and if you’re overweight, your body knows what it’s ideal weight is (not a ‘right’ weight from a textbook) and will get back there, as long as you work with it, instead of eating crap food and excess calories for the sake of it.

– How about… “I want to quit drinking” or “I want to stop eating so much junk food”
This time it is about stopping something, which is probably now a habit on auto-pilot. Society, family and you have trained yourself to make this something that you just do without even thinking most of the time.
It’s simple to make the decision not to eat the wrong foods – but it isn’t necessarily easy when that’s what you’re used to. Also the habit needs to be replaced with something else, something that is beneficial and will do you good.

Maybe rephrase it as “I want to start drinking more water and fresh juice” and “I want to eat healthier foods”.   When you’ve decided this is what you want to do instead, commit to it!
Don’t say “I’ll just finish this off first though.”  Take action and either give away the alcohol (to friends) and fizzy drinks, biscuits and other poor food choices, lying around the kitchen, to a charity. Or simply pour it down the sink and throw it in the bin. You don’t have to finish it (as you eating it won’t benefit those ‘starving people’ with any twisted logic or justification you can dream up.)

Remember you’ve not started on your new path until you’re moving off the old one.
You can eat crap sometimes later, if you want – but give yourself a fighting chance by avoiding it altogether for at least a couple of weeks!
When I stopped drinking around 8 years ago, I used to go out with my student and work friends 3-4 times a week.  During my first 2 weeks of tee-total (and vegetarian) they tested me and gave me so much grief and pressure to conform to my (their) old habits. But I persevered and won and felt better for it. I do occasionally drink now and eat meat but the difference is that I don’t need to and it doesn’t control my food choices.  I committed and stuck with my plan, regardless of outside temptations. It was a test of will-power but you CAN do whatever it is that you really want to achieve.

– Wealth
– “I want to make more money”
Will making more money make you happier? Will it ease your financial burdens or will you just spend more on stuff that you don’t really need?
Maybe say “I want to utilise money smarter”. This could mean looking at your expenditure and reducing any waste. Cancel the Direct Debits for subscriptions you don’t need or use that much. Find a cheaper insurance company and utility supplier.  Don’t waste as much money on crap you don’t need but just wanted one day.  You’ll find you’ll end up with more money.
Of course you can also look at ways to make more money as well – but if you’ve not reduced your costs where you can save it today – you may find your bad habits spend/waste any extra you would earn as well.

– Relationships
– “I need to find a partner who will love me.”
Do you really need someone else to be loved? Of course it’s great to be appreciated by others but if you have low self-worth, lack confidence and don’t really love yourself, finding a partner to fill that gap will only be a temporary fix.
How about a mantra of “I am worthy of love” and “I am enough as I am”
“I am going to be more confident” – find out how you can be more confident in life and happy being with yourself. You will then also become more attractive to others, as they will see you are love and happy – and who doesn’t like to be around those kinds of people!? You know when you’re around someone like this as you feel good about yourself too.  You don’t need someone else to be love – but once you find love within yourself, you will find it around you too.
(Of course this is a deeper topic, I just wanted to touch upon it here to give you another perspective if you’d not considered it before).

How could you rephrase what you think about these areas and others that you want to see improvements in?  Can you change the words you use, so they make more sense, have more impact and are easier to achieve?

Once you’ve done that, you also need to get started on making things happen.

– Commitment
First you need to decide your new goals that you want to take action and make a commitment to actually DO things differently.  To tell people publicly is a sign to show the world that you are actually serious about the new cause and activities you are going to embark upon.
This leads into the next step…

– Accountability
After deciding and committing to a course of action, you need to make sure you actually do it and take steps towards your goals. You can reach your goals without this but what better way than for someone to ask you regularly how you are getting on?
To be held accountable, tell a friend (who won’t let you off easily) and trusts that you will do what you say. They will keep you on track and support you in making sure you honour your word (commitment).

– Honesty

You have to be honest with yourself and your accountability partner.
What do you have to gain by lying to yourself about what you want or are prepared to do? If your heart isn’t in it, simply don’t commit to it. You’ll only end up feeling bad when you don’t do what you said you would.
Also why lie to someone who you’ve asked to help you stay on track.  The whole point of accountability is to be held responsible to your commitments.

If you’re unable or unwilling to be honest, then this is something you really need to work on.
Too many people, lie too often and think it is inconsequential. It is not!
Your character is built on what you say, mean and is true.
Actions speak louder than words anyway – and if you lie, you will not be congruent and out of alignment with yourself and life.  Don’t live a fraudulent life but an honest one.
Maybe this could be the one thing that makes you luckier and changes your life drastically this year?

Now you may need need some new strategies to achieve the goals you’ve committed to.
You might already have strategies to get to your goals.
Ask yourself, have they worked for you in the past?
Do you believe they are the only way to do it?
Some people are only interested in doing things ‘their way’ and what they already know. They don’t like to find out more or do things a different way. Others don’t like to ask for help or accept it – they’d rather remain ‘stuck’ than do and get what they say they really want.

Why not find someone who has the results you want and ask them how they achieved it.
Wouldn’t it be simpler to do it by following their strategies?
Seek out a coach or mentor. There are people that love to help others, as it makes them feel good about themselves, valued and they are also making your life better and the world a better place.
You just have to be vulnerable, share your challenges and ASK for help.

Joining the gym in January and quitting in February might not be working for you.
Getting a personal trainer instead, to hold you accountable as well, would be a better solution.

Of course if you decide what you said you wanted to do changes – or you don’t want to do it anymore, then that’s OK too. It’s not failure if you decide you want to do something else instead or you don’t really value what you thought you did. Other things might be more important to you and trying something new will show you what you do and don’t value in life.

Remember change is simple, although it might not always be easy.
You know what you want to do, the next step is doing it consistently.

Take The Correct Actions AND Do Them Often To Create New Beneficial Habits!

I’ve coached and worked with people and entrepreneurs, who started off on one path but then decided they didn’t want to continue, it was too much hard work or they wanted to do something else instead.
That’s fine! It’s your life and you can do whatever you want to. No-one should decide your goals or force you to do something you really don’t want to. Of course sometimes it’s worth persevering but it’s always YOUR choice!  People should love you and accept you as you are!

Send me a message to let me know what you’re committing to and I’ll even check in regularly to see how you’re getting along if you want. It doesn’t matter what area of your life you want to improve, it always helps to have someone supportive hold you accountable to doing what you say.

Well this was a stream of consciousness that I typed up, then tried to structure so it was easy to read. Forgive me if I go off on tangents – if you know me though, I usually do but everything has a point in the end!

I hope this has been useful and if you want to make a public commitment to do something, then do so.  Post it on Facebook/Twitter and tell people that you know.  Or send me a message if I can support you in any other way.

Let’s make this day/week/month/year a most excellent one!

A New Year and New Hope – You Matter!

I just want to say one thing: YOU MATTER!
I love, honour and respect you as much as I do myself.

And I care that you do well in life,  I know the New Year brings New Hope for everyone.

If I can help in any way at all, just ask…
Best wishes for 2013, Bobby 🙂

P.S. If you only have one New Year’s Resolution, choose “to make a difference”!


If that’s all you read above, then great – that is my new year message to you.

I wanted to keep it short although my soul keeps pushing me to share how I feel… so I will ramble on here.  Many people have trouble sharing their feelings, so it is easier to write them.  Here is just a layer…

Thank you for your friendship, your support and being there on our journey through life!
I feel the pain of others and what is happening with the planet, when I say ‘I know’, I do not need and many times cannot find the words to express my empathy.
For those that have met me, even briefly, will know it is true – the others don’t have to believe it yet, that we/everything is all connected.

I have been having challenging times recently, since 2010 when I had some issues with the Banks – to which they lied and took their game to a whole new mobster level.  The matter is still not resolved and my health has been suffering even more recently (this is the reason that many of you may not have seen me in 2012).
Fortunately I am still here, even though it would be easier to move into the spirit world, there is much work to still be done.
Many people I know and care about did not make it to the end of the year, so we are the lucky ones. I have friends who have similar challenges and we are the TOUGH ones, so I appreciate how challenging things can be for everyone else.
I’m currently on rehab and taking time out to get my energy back and accept I can’t change the world overnight, by myself!
Thanks to those that have been caring; understanding for my occasional erratic behavior and giving me the space I need to get back ‘at ease’.

My main advice during the dark moments of life is to keep a sense of humor, laugh, see the funny side to everything and always, ALWAYS look on the bright side of life.  Even on a dark night the stars still shine…

It would be easy to move on if I didn’t care so much – my values have been constantly challenged in this world right now –  Values of: Open-ness, love, honesty, integrity, reliability, truth, doing the right thing, people before profits (mainly things that stand for humanity, not corporate policy)  This is what has put me at dis-ease.

But as I do care about every one of you, I’m sticking around! I want to make sure that the lies, control and dishonesty does not spill over into the lives of all those I hold dear.  It is an important learning for everyone, though to get the lessons is no fun at all.  The reality created is very persuasive if you don’t know what you’re looking for.  And many people I know have fallen foul of this false reality. My aim is to help those that ask for it and overcome any ‘obstacles’ to get where they need/want to be.

More and more people are awakening to the truth, it is hard to hide. Since this is an age of change and the lifting of the veil, it is much easier to spot the truth or more importantly see the lies being fed to the masses.

I have been watching, experiencing, reporting and sharing the truth about how Authority (such as Bankers, Government, Councils, Police Corp and Companies) lie by using lawyers to write professional statements, instead of being honest themselves and telling the truth.
Yes, you read that right, they use lawyers to draft statements to confuse people and tell only their side of the story, then feed it into the mass media for people to be spoon fed, like propaganda.
They choose the part of the whole truth (or manufactured truth) that they want you to believe and act upon.

Fortunately more and more people are realizing this and turning to alternative news for more information, to get the bigger picture.

They hide behind something called ‘legalese’ (definition: language containing an excessive amount of legal terminology or of legal jargon) which is to use trickery with the English language to confuse everyday people.  When asked for evidence they refuse to provide it – and the legal system is there to provide justice to those that can afford to pay for it.  Usually their statements will only have viewpoints that are half-truths, ignoring the facts that are needed to know more of the whole truth.

They put truth sharers under house arrest or detain them indefinitely, such as Julian Assange and Bradley Manning – breaking their own rules and laws in the process.  Others disappear or are ‘killed’.  They are not accountable for mass fraud or murder, as they own the system.

This is to create FEAR in people. Do not dare to speak out against authority or how it wrongly treats people through lies, cheats them and kills, ironically in the name of ‘the people’.

“You take the blue pill, the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.” – Morpheus
 I chose to take the blue pill to uncover unpleasant truth in exchange for comforting lies.

How can you make a difference? 
Take the red pill and see how deep the rabbit hole goes.

Remember that YOU MATTER! Your story matters and if you share it, it can make a difference to someone Else’s life. They will know that you have overcome challenges that they currently face and survived.  If you can do it, they can do it too.  You are not alone and neither are they.  It is a precious gifting be able to share your thoughts and feelings with a complete stranger.

Come together with your community and network.  There are like minded souls everywhere who are there to help you and share information.  Your separation is only an illusion.

If you ever need help, just ASK! 
Ask those physically around you, someone at your local shop, ask your friends, ask your family, ask on the internet, ask me!  You only have to ask “Can you help me please?”

This goes beyond simply asking for money or immediate gratification and will provide you with what the money would buy.

You will be surprised how many people care. When they help you, their worries become lighter for a while and you are providing them a release from their own problems.  It is a great thing to be of service.
Especially when you are helping someone meet their basic needs and overcome a challenge that they are having trouble coping with.

Also look for people to help, if you can do it yourself great, otherwise put them in touch with someone who can.  Simply ask them “How can I help you?”

You do not necessarily have to help the person that helped you, just pay it forward. The person that can best help them will turn up and provide them what is needed, even if you just put them in touch.

Get a balanced view!
– You get told about modern medicine (allopathy + pharmaceutical drugs) – why not learn about real medicine (termed ‘alternative’ medicine by the system) such as homeopathy, Ayurveda and traditional Chinese medicine that has been used successfully for centuries!!
– Do you watch BBC News, CNBC, FOX etc?  I find RT News, Russia Today balances the news of the mainstream media and reports things you wouldn’t hear about otherwise.
– Watch films from another angle and a deeper level. Films like ‘Red Dawn’ on the surface is about a Communist Korean invasion, under the guise of making the Americans lives and government better. Now imagine the opposite, that those protecting their homes live in countries that are being invaded by United Nation soldiers in order to help them.  Then you will see the irony of the film and how people are not ‘insurgents’ but just want to be left alone.  When you can see both sides of a story, you can see more of the truth and make better choices for everyone.
– Find out what they left out of the ‘official’ school taught history books.  Like the day America was ‘discovered’ in 1492 was actually the day that Native Indians found a European man called Christopher Columbus lost on their shores (lets not mention the Vikings that had visited 500 years before). That is when the Europeans started to enslave, murder, and rape the people of the land.
– Did you know the sun is heating up and may be the cause of Global Warming on Earth, as it is also heating up other planets in our solar system?
– Read the big newspapers in your country? Google the stories to find other alternative news channels to give you another view point.  Go to the source and cross-check the facts for accuracy for your own peace of mind. Note that sometimes mainstream media journalists don’t even bother to do this!

Only by seeing more viewpoints and opinions can you make an informed decision yourself on what you believe the truth to be.  Don’t believe anything, not even what I tell you, without checking it out for yourself.

This is where the masses will lose as they are too lazy, don’t have time, it’s not their problem or blindly trust their masters. This is not you!
You are a sentient being who takes control of what they chose to believe and takes actions that benefit yourself AND mankind.  Choosing to do the RIGHT thing over the ‘easy’ thing.

Respect the opinion of others
Accept that not everyone will agree with your views and will have their own beliefs. You can only offer information and it is important to respect their opinion too – who knows, by listening to them you might even learn something new, which could change your mind and life radically.

Treat people fairly and reasonably and with respect. Do business with small businesses, with people that you can get to know and trust.

Choose to be a learner

Make the choice that you will learn about new things:
– that affect you, so you can be prepared for changes that are likely to happen in your life.
– for fun, so you can find out more about things that you love, find enjoyable and enrich your life deep down.
– just so you can know more and communicate with more people on this small planet.  They are not that different, we just haven’t learned what we have in common with them yet.
– study some neuron-linguistic programming (NLP), it will show you how the use of words, sounds and images can be used to control your mind, as regularly done by the mainstream media.
Awareness allows you the choice to view it as a spectator instead of a participant.

Here is an example of sharing information for people to do what they want with. It was in regards to research about Vaccines, when I was questioned about my ‘formal’ education.  It went against mainstream indoctrination, hence it is a touchy topic.

Poster: “If I was going to read research on vaccinations, I think I’d go a little more intellectual than Facebook! If you feel you have sufficiently studied this issue then by all means publish your views. But correct me if I’m wrong you studied Mech. Eng., not medicine or pharmacology….  My’ attack’ as you put it was deliberately not targeted at the argument but at the ill educated decision to scaremonger!”

Me: “I have studied Mechanical Engineering and many more fields since, including medicine. My education did not stop, it actually started AFTER I left institutionalized schooling/university. I still am open to learning. ‘Ill educated’ is your opinion, some education on a topic is better than ignorance and taking things for granted through ‘marketing’. Everyone has a right to agree/disagree with things I believe, as I do with others. I actually take an active interest in what people do, like and discuss to find out more.
I use this page to share info with people on topics that I know they do not get from their usual education/marketing from Newspapers, institutions, TV and the Mainstream Media News. Usually this will be challenging as I am not a conformist and like to know fully about a matter, which means both extreme viewpoints. I encourage people to always educate themselves and make their own decisions from ALL the available information, not just what is available on tap to be fed easily.
If sharing facts and reports is considered scaremongering – then it means some people have things to fear about knowing more. I will never know everything and those that claim to be experts are naive.
People are dying over who’s belief is right every day!”

We can only choose to educate ourselves, removing the excuse of ‘ignorance’. Then making what we think are the best choices based on the information available.

Ask Questions of Authority
Did you know you don’t have to do business with anyone or answer any questions if you don’t want to? School is to teach you to answer questions not ask them!
Did you know you have a right to ask questions and get information from those in charge so you can make an informed decision and choice? They don’t tell you that.

Get your control back and ask intelligent or common sense questions.  You will quickly find, those that were (pretending to be) in charge a moment, don’t really know what they are talking about and will start to backtrack, make things up and lie.  I find it handy to keep a recording device handy when speaking to such wafflers working for big companies that don’t know what’s really going on.

Remember, they claim to record calls for security and training purposes.  What you will find, if you’ve not already experienced it yourself already, is that they will find the recordings when they need to refer to it – or lose/destroy it when it could be of value to you or be shared with someone else, revealing any dishonesty.

I find it better to deal with them in writing. That way you both know the questions they ignore and their reply is in writing. It is harder for them to bullshit this way (I use that phrase as sometimes their answers smell of manure).

Don’t be afraid of anyone, especially authority figures… you gave them authority, so take it away and make it a level playing field as equals.  This will empower you and confuse them (simply because they’re used to having it their own way!)

Pick a cause and take Action!
Here’s to more whistle blowers, truth speakers and sharing in 2013!
Share your stories of what you see as injustice and pick a cause (or many).
Take action and start a blog, write about what happens with truthful details and facts.
The powers that be hate it when people show the other side of their ‘marketing’ and ‘dogma’.
Other people are empowered when they read about these things, knowing they are not alone and there are steps they can take to avoid the same happening to them.

I believe 2013 is a year of change.  Governments are already under stress to keep control and help their favourites out (corporations), whilst more wrong-doing by the banks is being reported almost weekly. Until they choose to see what they are doing to the people, acknowledge it, apologize and change – they are heading for destruction of their systems that they have caused from inside.

Remember it is the people within these companies that cause the problems, through the actions they chose to take and decisions they make.  Remind them and ask them to look inside for their humanity and also to see what is alive in you, that they hurt through causing pain and needless suffering.

Do you know anyone that works for a dishonest company like the Banks? Ask them to tell the truth for once and share what they know.  Only then will honest businesses with nothing to hide prosper and dinosaurs finally die.

Stay strong, be honest, live with integrity and always DO THE RIGHT THING!

Most importantly I am grateful for your time and energy, which is the most valuable commodity on Earth.  Your energy and where you focus it for any amount of time is what makes the difference.
You take the time to read my posts, speak to me in person and let me know that I also matter.
It is this that which keeps me going – and the fact that I know so many amazing people that matter and care about others too.
Life may not be easy all the time – but you’ve got to stick around for your friends and family.  As who else will be there to give them a hand or a laugh when it really matters…. Nobody does it quite like you do!
Here for you and each other,

Bobby 🙂

Lesson of Integrity from Gandhi

During 1930′s, a young boy had become obsessed with eating sugar. His mother was very upset with this. But no matter how much she scolded him and tried to break his habit, he continued to satisfy his sweet tooth.

Totally frustrated, she decided to take her son to see his idol – Mahatma Gandhi; perhaps her son would listen to him.

She walked miles, for hours under scorching sun to finally reach Gandhi’s ashram. There, she shared with Gandhi her predicament.
“Bapu, my son eats too much sugar. It is not good for his health. Would you please advise him to stop eating it?”

Gandhi listened to the woman carefully, thought for a while and replied,
“Please come back after two weeks. I will talk to your son.”

The woman looked perplexed and wondered why had he not asked the boy to stop eating sugar right away. She took the boy by the hand and went home.

Two weeks later they revisited Gandhi. Gandhi looked directly at the boy and said,
“Boy, you should stop eating sugar. It is not good for your health.”

The boy nodded and promised he would not continue this habit any longer.
The boy’s mother was puzzled. She turned to Gandhi and asked,
“Bapu, Why didn’t you tell him that two weeks ago when I brought him here to see you?”

Gandhi smiled, “Mother, two weeks ago I was eating a lot of sugar myself.”

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Integrity is a concept of consistency of actions, values, methods, measures, principles, expectations, and outcomes. In ethics, integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of one’s actions. Integrity can be regarded as the opposite of hypocrisy, in that integrity regards internal consistency as a virtue, and suggests that parties holding apparently conflicting values should account for the discrepancy or alter their beliefs. 

The word “integrity” stems from the Latin adjective integer (whole, complete).
In this context, integrity is the inner sense of “wholeness” deriving from qualities such as honesty and consistency of character

As such, one may judge that others “have integrity” to the extent that they act according to the values, beliefs and principles they claim to hold. 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Integrity

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Do the people you follow and listen to act out of integrity – or are your mentors ‘do as I say, not as I do’ fakers?
More importantly, do you ACT in accordance with your own values and character and ‘walk the talk’?
If not, when would now be a good time to change…
“You Must Be The Change You Wish To See In The World”