Flip a coin or kick a ball?

Can a game of football determine the future?

David Beckham has an injury and is potentially out of the World Cup but his career is far from over as some may speculate. He may not be playing but I’ll definitely be watching World Cup 2010 and having my regular games (real football fans know what a football feels like to kick too)

I played my usual game of football tonight and wasn’t sure if I wanted to go after last week’s events with the bank – but it’s the only exercise I get. Also I wanted to vent and expend some energy that had been pent up, so I said yes. After all it’s only a meaningless kick around with friends.

On the way there I’d decided this game would decide how much passion I still had left to be in business and life. As soon as I had that thought, I wished I could take it back. Once you think or say something (even to yourself) you can’t take it back, as the universe hears. I was in trouble now.

What if I got hurt? What if I lost? What would it mean if it was a bad game for my team? I could just flip a coin and if I didn’t like the result, we could do best of 3 or best of 5 or (Ad infinitum)
I told myself I’d have fun regardless and see how it went. Pretend it’s just a game.

When I arrived I was put on the side with 3 top strikers. Normally this wouldn’t be a problem but they’re the kind of guys you have to tackle to get the ball from if you want it, even if they’re on your side!  I may as play against them if I have to fight for the ball so I asked to go on the opposing side but it was a firm no… time to play.

One of our main strikers got injured and substituted.  I got laughed at for not having my regular football shirt but a crew shirt instead.  “Millionaire Mind crew?” he said, “More like cabin crew!” Oh, the usual witty banter we have, I was getting some thrown back at me today.  Later one of their best players ran around me in circles and I twisted my ankle and fell.  Surely this was going to determine the rest of my game now. I felt silly at the injury and hobbled on knowing it would get better, as I often do. After all, someone has to play the part-time super hero.

I’d show them, talk is cheap. Then I got a goal in… and then another. Then a clearance from the half way line ended up in the back of the net! My team were as surprised as I was, since I’d not had this good a game for a while – I usually play defender as I have a powerful kick (toe poke it like Bobby) or mid-fielder and set up the other players as I believe there shooting is much more accurate.

Then something strange happened. My team started passing to me more frequently and as often as I set other players up for a shot, they did the same. These guys were looking for someone to play with that was in the zone and on top of their game.  I stopped counting after scoring my second hat trick. As the final whistle blew one of the guys on the other team said “You’re going to go home happy tonight.” And it was true. Winning feels so much better than getting beaten, especially when the other team are also happy for your achievement.

Can a game of football determine the future and decide who goes home happy after that game? Most likely… if only wars were fought on the football pitch with a ball too.

Was it game over for me in business? Not at all, I was on fire and ready to carry on playing… Do your worst because whatever team you put me on, we will come together and aim to score every time AND win!

My journey in life

“These days are to be remembered; please don’t ever forget them.  Hard days make those sunny days that much brighter even when it rains.” – Bobby

It’s been a long cold winter.

I had the receivers from the Bank of Scotland come in on Thursday and take over the running of my business. They didn’t call, give any warning and just walked in with a letter to say they can do whatever they want. Having ignored all my letters and proposals to them to deal with the matter fairly and request for a meeting, this is what they chose to do.
The receiver said he was appointed by the bank on my behalf. He asked me to help him out and I thought if I did they would be fine with me, then he told me to get off the property! You can imagine the shock of the situation, as I wasn’t expecting to be helpful all day, then suddenly being dismissed and told to just pack up and leave without a thank you or anything.

Even though I should have expected this, it still felt like the bank had stabbed me. The banks and their associates are real Wolves in sheep’s clothing, I’ve now come to learn that even their smiles are fake and can’t be trusted.

That was when the reality of the situation hit me and I don’t wish this feeling on anyone.When it happens to someone else we’re the first to judge, rationalise and say that this is how we’d handle it – when it is you, in a split second, everything all of sudden changes, seeming so different and much more important.

I cannot even bring myself to telephone a dear friend that I owe money to without a tear coming to my eye, even though we had spoken the day before.

Regardless of all the Personal Development Dogma, we may not always be in charge of everything in life and our path may be picked for us.
Even still we can only choose to make the best decisions we can and learn from all the lessons in life, whether we see them as good or bad.

Later, as I sat in the supermarket car park, not knowing why I was even there, I scribbled these thoughts that were racing through my head on paper. I cannot even put on paper all the emotions I felt ranging from sorrow, loss, anger,  fear, pride, unhappiness, love and gratitude. What people would say and think.

It was a sunny day and I had tears running streaming down my face, when it started to rain…. which made me a little happier that we don’t live alone and the world shares our joys and sorrows.  The more you open your heart, the more the love can flow in.

Don’t stop dreaming and hang on to them good luck charms, as you will need them soon enough.

And as I stepped out of the car the rain stopped… It really did – it was finally Spring.

If you need someone to talk to about anything at all, I am here for you. Maybe my journey and friends can provide some guidance and put you back on your path. Remember, a problem shared is a problem halved, so feel free to contact me anytime if there is something you want to get off your chest in confidence, as you will always have a friend in me.

Thank you to all my family, friends and business associates (yes, you’re friends too and stuck with me). Our combined hearts are so much bigger and real than the size of any fictional bank or the trillions of paper they print and are then allowed to legally steal by the imaginary government, at the expense of the people like you and me. Judgement day is coming for them…

Money isn’t bad, just what you could do with it and when it’s valued more than people.Your real wealth and value is measured in what you can accomplish for yourself and others, now it’s time for me to show for real that ‘Wealth is what you have left when the money is gone’ and do it all over again, bigger and better… come along for the ride.

My time has been freed up to possibly do more writing, support I never knew I had has appeared and a couple of business proposals have already come in to keep me moving forward. But it’s not over yet as the banks have not won – I’m not going to quit, as the universe works in mysterious ways and I’ve only discounted the options I know about, the unknown resources will appear soon enough. I’m ready and waiting to receive…

Thank you for reading and allowing me to share my thoughts and feelings… my dry with and humour will commence again shortly.  I just need a little time to digest what’s happening and don’t fancy talking to anyone right now, so apologies if I’ve not returned any calls – I am here and will be back in touch soon.

Love and light, Bobby 🙂

Stress management and how to Beat It!

How Heavy Is A Glass of Water?

A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, “How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.

The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”

He continued, “And that’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.”

“As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden. So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can. Relax; pick them up later after you’ve rested. Life is short. Enjoy it!”


Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life:
• Accept that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue.
• Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.
• Always wear stuff that will make you look good, if you die in the middle of it.
• Drive carefully, it’s not only cars that can be “Recalled” by their maker.
• If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
• If you lend someone £20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.
• It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to be kind to others.
• Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won’t have a leg to stand on.
• Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance.
• Since it’s the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.
• The second mouse gets the cheese.
• When everything’s coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane.
• Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.
• Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.
• We could learn a lot from crayons . . . Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull.
Some have weird names, and all are different colours, but they all have to live in the same box.
• A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

Have an awesome day and know that someone has thought about you today.


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Finding and Keeping A Life Partner by Dov Heller

Here’s a great article brought to my attention by Jairek Robbins

Well worth a read for those in relationships or not. If you think about things up front you have much less to worry about later.

Bobby 🙂



The article below would be useful for both the married and unmarried ones,
please take some time to read.

by Dov Heller, M.A.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one
wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it
appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding
Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they’re getting married,
they’ll say: ‘We’re in love’; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make
when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love.
Though this may sound ‘not politically correct’, there’s a profound truth

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a
good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will
come. Let me say it again: ‘You can’t build a lifetime relationship on love
alone’; You need a lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask
yourself if you’re serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you’re married for 20
or 30 years, that’s a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to
do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to
share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2)you
can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a
marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line;
marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling
safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having
good communication is trust i.e. trust that I won’t get ‘punished’; or hurt
for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines
an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your
thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you
feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you
test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a
regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of
mine defines a good person as ’someone who is always striving to be good
and do the right ‘;. So ask about your significant other: What do they do
with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic
person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are
dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking
comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal
comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before
walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the
ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they
wrapped up in themselves and self absorbed? To measure this, think about
the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice
to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their
parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they
don’t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you
do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others
poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I’m hoping to change about this person
after we’re married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of
trying to ‘improve’ them after they’re married. As a colleague of mine puts
it: ‘You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the
worse’ If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then
you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn’t have to be difficult and treacherous. The key
is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It
pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask
questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a
great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on our finger, you don’t
want to find yourself trouble because you didn’t do your homework.

Another perspective…There are some people in your life that need to be
loved from a distance.. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let
go of or at
least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going
anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay
attention…Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and
which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which
ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better
or feel worse? Which ones don’t appreciate you? Which ones make you feel
good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or annotations.

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth
around you…the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in
the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

An African proverb states, ‘Before you get married, keep both eyes open,
and after you marry, close one eye’; Before you get involved and make a
commitment to someone, don’t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance,
pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.
Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool yourself that you can change someone or
that what you see as faults isn’t really that important. Do you bring out
the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other,
or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the
relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust,
past pain? You can’t take someone to the altar to alter them. You can’t
make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem,
spiritual discernment, and ‘a life’; you won’t find yourself making someone
else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking
status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.)

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment
withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.

By Dov Heller, M.A. www.ClarityTalk.com

“The more we understand our feelings, the more we understand ourselves”

The Little Soul and The Sun

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This parable is taken from the book Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch.

I was looking for it the other day and here it appeared when I needed it most.

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Part 1

There once was a soul who knew itself to be the light.

This was a new soul and so, anxious for experience. “I am the light” it said. “I am the light”

Yet all the knowing of it and all the saying of it, could not substitute for the experience of it. And in the realm from which this soul emerged, there was nothing but the light. Every soul was grand and every soul was magnificent and every soul shone with the brilliance of God’s awesome light. So the little soul was as a candle in the sun.

In the midst of the grandest light, of which it was part, it could not see itself, nor experience itself as Who and What it really is. Now it came to pass that this soul yearned and yearned to know itself. So great was it’s yearning that God one day said, “Do you know little one, what you must do to satisfy this yearning of yours?”

“Oh, what, God? What? I’ll do anything!” the little soul said. “You must separate yourself from the rest of us” God answered, “and then you must call upon yourself the darkness” “What is the darkness, o Holy One?” the little soul asked.

“That which you are not” God replied and the soul understood. And so this the soul did, removing itself from the ‘ All ‘ going even unto another realm. And in this realm the soul had the power to call into it’s experience all sorts of darkness. And this it did. Yet in the midst of all the darkness did it cry out, “Father, Father, why hast thou forsaken me?” God replied: “Even has have you, in your blackest times. Yet I have never forsaken you, but stand by you always, ready to remind you of Who You Really Are; ready always ready, to call you home.

Therefore be a light unto the darkness and curse it not. And forget not who you are in the moment of your encirclement by that which you are not. But do praise to the creation even as you seek to change it. And know that what you do in the time of your greatest trial can be your greatest triumph. For the experience you create is a statement of Who You Are – and Who You Want to Be.


Part 2

God said to the little soul, “You may choose to be any Part of God you wish to be. You are absolute divinity experiencing itself. What aspect of divinity do you now wish to experience as You?”

“You mean I have a choice”, asked the little soul. God answered, “Yes. You may choose to experience any aspect of divinity in, as and through you.”

“Okay,” said the little soul, “then I choose forgiveness. I want to experience myself as that aspect of God called complete forgiveness.” Well this created a little challenge, as you can imagine. There was no one to forgive. All God had created was perfection and love.

“No one to forgive?” asked the little soul, somewhat incredulously. “No one,” God repeated. “Look around you. Do you see any souls less than perfect, less wonderful than you?” At this the little soul twirled around and was surprised to see himself surrounded by all the souls in heaven. They had come from far and wide throughout the kingdom, because they heard that the little soul was having an extraordinary conversation with God.

“I see none less perfect than I!” the little soul exclaimed. “Who, then, shall I have to forgive?”

Just then another soul stepped forward from the crowd. “You may forgive me” said this friendly soul “For what?” the little soul asked. ” I will come into your next physical lifetime and do something for you to forgive,” replied the friendly soul. “But what? What could you, a being of such perfect light do to make me want to forgive you?” the little soul wanted to know. “Oh,” smiled the friendly soul, “I’m sure we can think of something.” “But why would you want to do this?”

The little soul could not figure out why a being of such perfection would want to slow down it’s vibration so much that it could do something ‘bad’. “Simple,” the friendly soul explained, “I would do it because I love you. You want to experience yourself as forgiving, don’t you? Besides you’ve done the same for me.” “I have?” asked the little soul. “Of course, don’t you remember?

We’ve been All Of it, you and I. We’ve been the Up and the Down of it, and the Left and the Right of it. We’ve been the Here and the There of it, and the Now and the Then of it. We’ve been the Big and the Small of it, the Male and the Female of it and the Good and the Bad of it. We’ve been the All of it.” “And we’ve done it by agreement, so that each of us might experience ourselves as the grandest part of God. For we have understood that… ‘In the absence of that which You Are Not, that which you Are, is Not’.

‘In the absence of cold you cannot be warm, in the absence of sad you cannot be happy. Without a thing called evil, the experience you call good cannot exist’. ‘If you choose to be a thing, something or someone opposite to that has to show up somewhere in your universe to make that possible.’ ” The friendly soul then explained that those people are God’s Special Angels and these conditions God’s Gifts.

“I ask only one thing in return,” the friendly soul declared. “Anything, Anything,” the little soul cried. He was excited now to know that he could experience every divine aspect of God. He understood now, The Plan. “In the moment that I strike you and smite you,” said the friendly soul, “in the moment that I do the worst to you that you could ever imagine – in that self same moment…remember Who I Really Am.” “Oh, I wont forget!” promised the little soul. “I will see you in the perfection with which I hold you now, and I will remember Who You Are, always.”

Neale Donald Walsch from The Little Soul and the Sun


And should we ever forget who the other soul really is and who we are, we are destined to repeat it over and over again until we remember. Learn the lessons quickly so you can move on and experience what life has to offer. Bobby

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Part 3 (from another source)

“Good,” said the Friendly Soul, “because, you see, I will have been pretending so hard, I will have forgotten myself. And if you do not remember me as I really am, I may not be able to remember for a very long time. And if I forget Who I Am, you may even forget Who You Are, and we will both be lost. Then we will need another soul to come along and remind us both of Who We Are.”

“No, we won’t!” the Little Soul promised again. “I will remember you! And I will thank you for bringing me this gift ~ the chance to experience myself as Who I Am.”

And so, the agreement was made. And the Little Soul went forth into a new lifetime, excited to be the Light, which was very special, and excited to be that part of special called Forgiveness.

And the Little Soul waited anxiously to be able to experience itself as Forgiveness, and to thank whatever other soul made it possible. And at all the moments in that new lifetime, whenever a new soul appeared on the scene, whether that new soul brought joy or sadness–and especially if it brought sadness–the Little Soul thought of what God had said.

“Always remember,” God had smiled, “I have sent you nothing but angels.”