Do you offer guarantees you don’t plan on providing or making promises you know you can’t keep?
Do you have a hidden agenda when you start a communication or tell half-truths to get what you want?
In a world that is short of honesty at the moment and full of fakes, you will stand out from the crowd and attract people, business and opportunities to yourself. I’ve always been pretty honest with everyone, now even more so and I find it works wonders. In relationships, job interviews, business meetings and friendship.
Tell business partners what you are able to offer with 100% certainty versus what you hope you might be able to do. It’s OK to say you don’t know as well and that you will find out, instead of B.S. your way through.
For example with a job or relationship, can you guarantee how it will work out or how long it will last? Many will come up with all sorts of waffle, when in reality you can either refer to past experience (remember past performance is still not a guarantee of future performance) or just say that you will do your best and make sure if things change, you will be open and honest and make sure the issues are fixed before dumping the project.
When you tell the truth, you will feel better about yourself and allow others to feel better that they can be open too.
– Go on give it a try. Tell your partner something honest today that you’ve wanted to get off your chest and ask them if there is anything they’d like to say. Chances are the conversation won’t go as badly as you imagined and if it does (I can’t make any guarantees it won’t) – you may feel bad in the moment but this is only temporary, as afterwards you will feel much lighter.
Having shared a secret that was burning you up inside, you will find the burden lifted when you don’t have to protect it and hold it close any longer.
Sometimes more problems are caused by what remains unsaid versus what is said.
– Are you able to be honest today with someone or does it scare you that much?
Guess what, if there is something that you can’t tell someone else, then it is only yourself you’re lying to and being dishonest with!
The biggest challenge people have is being honest with themselves about what they can or can’t do and what is really true.
Never say never, as there may be things that you are selectively forgetting so you can be ‘right’ as opposed to ‘honest’.
How many lies do you tell yourself everyday? You can change anytime.
When you lie to yourself and argue with others (or self) about how things are, you are creating a reality that may not serve you best and may not be true or honest.
“Argue for your limitations, and sure enough they’re yours.” – Richard Bach
When you start to tell the truth and people see, hear and feel it – you will be someone that they can trust more than all the other people they know. The bonus is that you will also start to trust yourself more too. If you are honest with yourself, you’re less likely to make stupid ego-driven mistakes.
So take a stand for truth, honesty and integrity and watch your world change.