Happy Days, Moments, Feelings & Memories

Why I don’t celebrate/do Birthdays in the traditional sense… and where I’m at now.

My new year usually starts on my birthday, when I reflect on life, where I’ve been and where I’d like to go.

What is it about birthdays and completing another full orbit of the Sun from the first day we are born and see it? Some people enjoy them, others don’t.

The day of birth itself, of a star child choosing to be born on planet Earth, should be enough in itself and the only ‘birth day’ of importance or consequence.

First we want to have as many birthdays as soon as possible, in a rush to grow up, then we wish time would slow and we’d have longer to make the orbit.

Too many people then start to count and worry about the orbits that they have around the fire at the centre of our solar system (that we barely know anything about, never mind the rock that we stand on).

Shouldn’t we be more concerned about what we do with the time we have than the ‘time’ passing by?

So why don’t I celebrate birthdays?

(You can substitute birthdays, with Christmas, New Year, Valentines Day or any holiday where you’re made to feel you can’t be alone and/or made to feel that you must buy stuff for others to show you care).

Well birthdays (holidays) are supposed to be wonderful days with energy focused on them and everything happening as you wish. But how often didn’t the day go to plan, someone let you down, nobody showed up, you didn’t get what you wanted or something horrible happened?

Was it more often than something amazing happened on that day?  Wishes weren’t fulfilled, hopes weren’t met creating an unpleasant memory.

The problem is expectations. Reality can’t always meet them. And these days are ‘meant’ (pressured) to be perfect through expectations, wishes and others telling you.

Yet all the other days of the year without the expectations often turn out pretty well if you let them, without attaching so much emotion. Many of them are pretty outstanding if you think about it.

Oh, another reason I don’t enjoy them much is a lot of these days happen in Winter for me – a time when it’s cold, wet, miserable and as other sensitive people that are tuned in and affected by the environment will tell you; it’s just a nice time to be indoors, less social, relax and hibernate as nature intended.

So I don’t value birthdays as much as others do, hence I may not remember yours or wish you a happy one.

That does not mean I don’t care about you – or think about you more often than once or twice a year.

It’s the idea of the birthday itself I don’t value as opposed to the people that have them 🙂

I’d rather see you, meet with you and laugh with you any day of the year – to make it worthwhile and memorable.

With regards to gifts, people usually give others what they themselves value highly and would like.

As a recipient, it is your job to just be grateful for the thought and person doing the giving, no matter what you get (or don’t).

Yes it would be nice to communicate what you like and get that – but gifts are about giving, not the item itself.

You’ve probably heard about the ‘five languages of love’, which is a nice thought to please other people, so you are speaking their language, with gifts being one of them – but there is something called ‘real love’ that is unconditional.

‘Real love’ doesn’t rely on people doing the things you want them to, you are just grateful and love them for who they are, as they are, for doing the best they can and being their true selves.

So, what did I do for my birthday?

The day before I went to finally watch the new Star Wars reboot.

A quiet matinee showing at a time I chose, in a quiet cinema.

(It’s great not following the media and society to need to watch/do things when they want you to)

I received a food hamper of ‘healthy-ish’ snacks from my sister, that she chose.

My current diet suggests I don’t eat a lot of the stuff but I needed the calories so tucked in (I’ll cover that in a moment)

I also Skyped my nephews in Canada (aged 6 and 9) and told them I’d bought them tickets to Star Wars for my birthday and my sister would take them.

(I hadn’t but if they’d been here I would have taken them. Yes they enjoyed the film!)

On my birth day I went for a local pub lunch with my parents and uncle – because that’s all I wanted to do.

In the evening I went to the supermarket to get some milk for the following day and some food. Not very exciting but it also beats getting drunk and hungover!

(Which was expected as a teenager, in your 20’s and unfortunately for the rest of some people’s lives if they haven’t learned or matured much since)

The following day, I got back to the gym and did 40 laps.

New years resolution is start getting fit and healthy again, something I’d stopped doing after getting ill in late Autumn.

Did I need more stuff to be happy? No. Just to do some nice things that I wanted to do.

One of my better birthday weekends to be honest.

I usually don’t tell/remind people it’s my birthday but I’d not been well recently so it’s the first time I’d left it on my FB and left my status open for people to leave messages, as I could really use that extra ‘juice’ and goodwill to get over this last hurdle.

I wasn’t expecting the first-time messages from ‘networkers’ cloaked as gifts and self-promotion – or people I’m not even sure how they got on my friends list, good time to have a purge I guess!

I do appreciate everyone that has sent a card, gift, message, good wishes – and I also appreciate those of you that didn’t, for still being there for me when I need you.

Of course birthdays aside, I’m still grateful for EVERY day I wake up and there’s no wood (of the ‘coffin’ variety as opposed to ‘morning glory’)

A few years ago my life and health started fluctuating, getting worse just before this Xmas but now on the mend. Like seasons, it was just a time and phase we all have to go through to some degree at different times in our lives.

Losing my business, work, home, health, relationships and having ’nothing’ was a humbling experience. Although one I would never want to wish away as if it never happened.

I remember a friend who I worked with that used to say “If only they had my problems and me theirs, then they wouldn’t complain!”

I’d reply that everyone is fighting a hard fight and has challenges and we should be grateful for just our troubles – and not wish them on anyone else or ask for theirs.

It is in those low moments of visiting nothing, where you find out what is real.  I say visiting, as some people forget and stay there leading to severe depression and worse.

This of course did lead to depression (which can come in many forms) and is also known as “the dark night of the soul.”

The reason people have problems is because they think it’s only them and don’t share them, with the aim of getting another viewpoint and solution (as opposed to having people give you attention and ‘feel sorry’ for you.)

Tell someone, talk about it, ask for help and be prepared to accept it.

Most people won’t judge you as they have similar problems themselves.

You just have to be vulnerable and put yourself out there.

On top of that my nerves were shot as well and I literally had no energy… I’d lost my ‘mojo’  🙁

Stomach issues, meant I was not travelling much and the simple social interaction of meeting for lunch or having a drink was difficult – so I wouldn’t.  It also meant I’d inadvertently found a new rapid weight-loss plan (being ill is definitely a plan I wouldn’t recommend).

Not wanting to get up on a morning or leave the house, which rolled one day to the next.

I thought it was life and stress that was causing a clear out of all the shit in my life.

I tried all sorts, from homeopaths, nutritionists, acupuncture, chinese herbal medicine, meditation, Qi Gong, psychic surgeons, intuitives etc.. all with no permanent solution. Just a knowing that I would be well again soon.

Being near a bathroom was my biggest concern… too much information?

Having to do a Usain Bolt beating 100 metre dash at a moment’s notice was priority most of the time.

Well I finally went to the hospital in the New Year and put my faith and trust in the doctors. I had a camera up my bum and down my throat (different cameras, not the same one!) to finally give me the all clear. Now is that too much info?

I did ask if they did souvenir DVD’s for me to upload to Youtube but they don’t (now that would be too much).

Funnily enough I’ve been feeling much better since. I think they give you the hospital food and procedures so you DON’T want to stick around!

It was a great experience being unwell, as although I may not have got all the answers I needed to help me, I learned loads and probably gathered enough info to help people with their random problems.  When we have a challenge in our lives, it forces us to look at it and find the lessons we need to learn so we can move on.

Now if birthdays aren’t important to me, what is?

Moments are what is important.

I’d rather have more magical moments, feelings and memories than revolutions around the sun. It’s special moments that make it all worthwhile.

What is a moment?

When you are happy, grateful and enjoying yourself.

Be it alone, in nature or with other people.

All we need to do is share a smile, hug, a few kind words to create a moment and memory that you can cherish. It doesn’t have to happen at a particular time, it can be anytime and even when you least expect it.

‘At the end of the day people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.’ – Maya Angelou

There used to be a time when I’d catch up will people all the time, I’d even jump on a plane if I’d promised to be somewhere to meet someone.

I realise I’ve not seen or spoken to a lot of people but that doesn’t mean I’ve forgotten you or not thought of you. I know everyone else is going through their own challenges, so expecting them to be part of mine would have been unfair.

Well I’ve started to get my energy back and the mojo has returned.

So it’s time for me to make amends for my extended absence and give solace to others.

– So now, if you want to catch up and chat, about anything, from life, health, relationships, love, depression, personal development or fun times. Send me a message.

I’ll even help you find your mojo if it’s been missing for a while!

– If you want to meet up to talk about your properties, business, online marketing, then you can buy me lunch and I can help you make/save money.  I used to do free Skype calls but after putting in many hours helping people (because I wanted to), I found it strange that if I asked them to take 5 minutes to write me a two sentence testimonial, I wouldn’t hear back.

Not that it was an expectation, it just made me wonder if people valued my time if I didn’t value it.

Hence now you’re going to have to come to me and at least buy me lunch if it’s a money related discussion you’re after. I love to help, so would do it for free – but it’s good to be fed and eat as well.

I know I need to get out more and I’m sure you do too! So give me a shout.

The great thing about varied life experiences is that everyone has a lot of experience to draw upon and learn from, as well as share with other.

Also once you’ve been in some dark, strange, weird places in life, they make great stories that you can laugh about afterwards.  A sense of humour is a must to survive life without going completely mad.

This invitation is open to any of my friends I know, have spoken to, met in person or chatted online. So if that isn’t you, it would just be weird.

Also I’m not suggesting you invite me to any ‘business opportunities’ or ‘cult meetings’ (as much as I secretly enjoy such things and a good social), I like to be told in advance where I’m going.

Don’t worry my rants aren’t as random/mental in real life (or are they?)

I like to get my thoughts out of the way on my blog when I can, it’s a safe place for them and believe it or not they’re edited as well!

Remember think about anything you want, while you still can – before thinking is made illegal!


Anyway, I’m not going to wish you a happy birthday in advance or later – I just want to wish you HAPPY DAYS as often as possible.

See you soon and lets create some memories,

Bobby 🙂

how to stream TV and movies using Kodi

I spoke to a friend a Christmas who told me about a program called Kodi for watching TV and films. I’d heard of it and it previously when it was known as XMBC.

Here’s a quick guide to check it out. Excuse my grammar and spelling as its late and I’m typing on a tablet with crappy auto-correct.

Get Koditmp_5550-Kodi-HTPC-1154530443

This works on Mac/Pc and ios and android tablets.

Go to http://kodi.tv/download/

Download and install the app.

Get Wookie (other addons are available, this was just an easy “how-to” to link to so you know how it works)

Google “install wookie on kodi”
Best result is at http://kodicommunity.com/how-to-install-the-wookie-wizard-on-kodi/
Scroll down to read the Install Instructions, follow them carefully!!
You won’t break anything but if you miss a step or get it wrong, it won’t work.

Once installed, go into Kodi > movies > add-ons > wookie
It will list latest TV shows and movies.


Now if you get it to work and like how it works, you can find similar add-ons at https://addons.tvaddons.ag/

If you want to watch on TV either
A/ hook up your laptop to TV
B/ go to ebay and search “amazon fire fully loaded”
Filter by…
Min price £40
Location uk only
Buying format: buy it now
Sort by: lowest price
Average price is £50-£60 for the amazon fire stick

Hopefully this link takes you to that search: http://ebay.co.uk Search

Find an ebay seller with a high rating 98%+ and at least 50+ feedback! Also one that offers some support in their description.
Note: if you have kids or easily bored partners/husbands ask the ebay seller to remove the “XXX” option!

When it arrives, plug into your HDMI port on your TV and ENJOY!!

*Important: the software and product IS LEGAL but what you choose to access may be in that grey area of illegality!

Ok. Sleepy time, I’ve got a busy day tomorrow.

Bobby 🙂

P.S. Doctors and nurses at the NHS rock, just because the Government and the system is shit doesn’t mean they don’t care, as human beings they’re doing their best just like the rest of us.

P.P.S. Here’s something call Showbox that you may also want to try out…

P.P.P.S. Stream directly on your laptop/tablet on these sites: http://9movies.to/ http://video2k.is/ https://www.popa.cr/ http://coolvideoapp.com/

How To Have Better Luck This Month / Year

Well as the New Year is upon us, many will be reflecting on the past and thinking about their hopes for the future.  Too many people will be looking back and thinking what they didn’t achieve, do or make happen last year and feel disappointed.

It is all a matter of perspective though. Do you really want to think about what went ‘wrong’!?

What if you focus on what you DID achieve, do and make happen?
Wouldn’t you then be grateful for everything instead…

This is something that Dr John Demartini posted that you should read carefully and meditate upon.

“As you reflect on 2015, think about what you have accomplished during the course of this year. It is wise to think of what you have achieved in the different areas of your life.
1. Spiritually what have you achieved?
2. Vocationally what have you achieved?
3. Mentally what have you achieved?
4. Financially what have you achieved?
5. Familial what have you achieved?
6. Physically what have you achieved?
7. Socially what have you achieved?”

Do you now see how successful your year actually was? The great things that DID happen and achievements that make you happy when you think about them.

Let’s talk about NOW! Note how this post is title “How To Have Better Luck THIS Month”
People tend to make plans for the future, then when it is time to do something, they fail to take the right actions. How familiar does this sound… “Tomorrow (next week/month) I will do X”?
I used to be a first class procrastinator, so I know from experience. How does “Now I will do X” feel?

Also ‘luck’ is a completely different subject which I’ll cover another time – for now you’ll just have to create it with some decisions, commitment and a little work.

Instead, ask yourself if what you are ask-yourselfdoing today is getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow. The actions don’t have to be huge or drastic, they just need to be in alignment with what you really want.

Of course it’s good to make plans for the future to know where you’re going but you need to take the right steps regularly as well.  So if there is something you want to achieve, why not START today…

Let’s look at 3 areas that people are usually concerned about and the language they use.

– Health
– “I want to lose weight” or “I want to get fit”
Is that what they really mean? Do they believe if they lose x lbs/kgs they will be happier?
Do they see ‘fit’ as the (fake) or extremely ‘perfect’ people on TV and magazines?
Maybe thinking about it as “I want to be healthy” would be better…
This way the focus is on a healthy lifestyle and if you’re overweight, your body knows what it’s ideal weight is (not a ‘right’ weight from a textbook) and will get back there, as long as you work with it, instead of eating crap food and excess calories for the sake of it.

– How about… “I want to quit drinking” or “I want to stop eating so much junk food”
This time it is about stopping something, which is probably now a habit on auto-pilot. Society, family and you have trained yourself to make this something that you just do without even thinking most of the time.
It’s simple to make the decision not to eat the wrong foods – but it isn’t necessarily easy when that’s what you’re used to. Also the habit needs to be replaced with something else, something that is beneficial and will do you good.

Maybe rephrase it as “I want to start drinking more water and fresh juice” and “I want to eat healthier foods”.   When you’ve decided this is what you want to do instead, commit to it!
Don’t say “I’ll just finish this off first though.”  Take action and either give away the alcohol (to friends) and fizzy drinks, biscuits and other poor food choices, lying around the kitchen, to a charity. Or simply pour it down the sink and throw it in the bin. You don’t have to finish it (as you eating it won’t benefit those ‘starving people’ with any twisted logic or justification you can dream up.)

Remember you’ve not started on your new path until you’re moving off the old one.
You can eat crap sometimes later, if you want – but give yourself a fighting chance by avoiding it altogether for at least a couple of weeks!
When I stopped drinking around 8 years ago, I used to go out with my student and work friends 3-4 times a week.  During my first 2 weeks of tee-total (and vegetarian) they tested me and gave me so much grief and pressure to conform to my (their) old habits. But I persevered and won and felt better for it. I do occasionally drink now and eat meat but the difference is that I don’t need to and it doesn’t control my food choices.  I committed and stuck with my plan, regardless of outside temptations. It was a test of will-power but you CAN do whatever it is that you really want to achieve.

– Wealth
– “I want to make more money”
Will making more money make you happier? Will it ease your financial burdens or will you just spend more on stuff that you don’t really need?
Maybe say “I want to utilise money smarter”. This could mean looking at your expenditure and reducing any waste. Cancel the Direct Debits for subscriptions you don’t need or use that much. Find a cheaper insurance company and utility supplier.  Don’t waste as much money on crap you don’t need but just wanted one day.  You’ll find you’ll end up with more money.
Of course you can also look at ways to make more money as well – but if you’ve not reduced your costs where you can save it today – you may find your bad habits spend/waste any extra you would earn as well.

– Relationships
– “I need to find a partner who will love me.”
Do you really need someone else to be loved? Of course it’s great to be appreciated by others but if you have low self-worth, lack confidence and don’t really love yourself, finding a partner to fill that gap will only be a temporary fix.
How about a mantra of “I am worthy of love” and “I am enough as I am”
“I am going to be more confident” – find out how you can be more confident in life and happy being with yourself. You will then also become more attractive to others, as they will see you are love and happy – and who doesn’t like to be around those kinds of people!? You know when you’re around someone like this as you feel good about yourself too.  You don’t need someone else to be love – but once you find love within yourself, you will find it around you too.
(Of course this is a deeper topic, I just wanted to touch upon it here to give you another perspective if you’d not considered it before).

How could you rephrase what you think about these areas and others that you want to see improvements in?  Can you change the words you use, so they make more sense, have more impact and are easier to achieve?

Once you’ve done that, you also need to get started on making things happen.

– Commitment
First you need to decide your new goals that you want to take action and make a commitment to actually DO things differently.  To tell people publicly is a sign to show the world that you are actually serious about the new cause and activities you are going to embark upon.
This leads into the next step…

– Accountability
After deciding and committing to a course of action, you need to make sure you actually do it and take steps towards your goals. You can reach your goals without this but what better way than for someone to ask you regularly how you are getting on?
To be held accountable, tell a friend (who won’t let you off easily) and trusts that you will do what you say. They will keep you on track and support you in making sure you honour your word (commitment).

– Honesty

You have to be honest with yourself and your accountability partner.
What do you have to gain by lying to yourself about what you want or are prepared to do? If your heart isn’t in it, simply don’t commit to it. You’ll only end up feeling bad when you don’t do what you said you would.
Also why lie to someone who you’ve asked to help you stay on track.  The whole point of accountability is to be held responsible to your commitments.

If you’re unable or unwilling to be honest, then this is something you really need to work on.
Too many people, lie too often and think it is inconsequential. It is not!
Your character is built on what you say, mean and is true.
Actions speak louder than words anyway – and if you lie, you will not be congruent and out of alignment with yourself and life.  Don’t live a fraudulent life but an honest one.
Maybe this could be the one thing that makes you luckier and changes your life drastically this year?

Now you may need need some new strategies to achieve the goals you’ve committed to.
You might already have strategies to get to your goals.
Ask yourself, have they worked for you in the past?
Do you believe they are the only way to do it?
Some people are only interested in doing things ‘their way’ and what they already know. They don’t like to find out more or do things a different way. Others don’t like to ask for help or accept it – they’d rather remain ‘stuck’ than do and get what they say they really want.

Why not find someone who has the results you want and ask them how they achieved it.
Wouldn’t it be simpler to do it by following their strategies?
Seek out a coach or mentor. There are people that love to help others, as it makes them feel good about themselves, valued and they are also making your life better and the world a better place.
You just have to be vulnerable, share your challenges and ASK for help.

Joining the gym in January and quitting in February might not be working for you.
Getting a personal trainer instead, to hold you accountable as well, would be a better solution.

Of course if you decide what you said you wanted to do changes – or you don’t want to do it anymore, then that’s OK too. It’s not failure if you decide you want to do something else instead or you don’t really value what you thought you did. Other things might be more important to you and trying something new will show you what you do and don’t value in life.

Remember change is simple, although it might not always be easy.
You know what you want to do, the next step is doing it consistently.

Take The Correct Actions AND Do Them Often To Create New Beneficial Habits!

I’ve coached and worked with people and entrepreneurs, who started off on one path but then decided they didn’t want to continue, it was too much hard work or they wanted to do something else instead.
That’s fine! It’s your life and you can do whatever you want to. No-one should decide your goals or force you to do something you really don’t want to. Of course sometimes it’s worth persevering but it’s always YOUR choice!  People should love you and accept you as you are!

Send me a message to let me know what you’re committing to and I’ll even check in regularly to see how you’re getting along if you want. It doesn’t matter what area of your life you want to improve, it always helps to have someone supportive hold you accountable to doing what you say.

Well this was a stream of consciousness that I typed up, then tried to structure so it was easy to read. Forgive me if I go off on tangents – if you know me though, I usually do but everything has a point in the end!

I hope this has been useful and if you want to make a public commitment to do something, then do so.  Post it on Facebook/Twitter and tell people that you know.  Or send me a message if I can support you in any other way.

Let’s make this day/week/month/year a most excellent one!

House prices at all time highs – what next?

Do you believe in market cycles and that forecasts can be accurate?

Take a look at the following chart from economist Martin Armstrong who has been predicting these things for Governments and Banks for a long time.

realestate-cycle (Source: Martin Armstrong, see below)

Also note that the average UK house prices overtook the pre-crash record for the first time recently and US home sales also reached eight year peak and prices all time high. (sources below)

Many people may have forgotten what happened when the prices were this high last time and in a bubble just 7-8 years ago.

The inevitable crash was postponed/minimised by Government intervention and keeping dishonest bankers in business. Politicians supported their friends at the Banks with taxpayer money, so they could continue to launder for criminals, charge excessive fees, rig interest rates in their own favour, pay big bonuses and all the other fraud that has been going on and continues.

This money has flowed away from the ‘people’ and into the stock market, corporations and CEO pockets. The FED didn’t raise interest rates as they probably want a good Christmas of spending from people and enough time to fill their boots.

Politicians have been giving themselves pay rises, whilst the public coffers have been emptied.
Banks don’t have enough real assets to cover all the money they gamble with and pay their ‘top’ employees.
Governments all over the world are in debt and many take out new lines of credit, to try and pay the interest on their previous borrowing. Eventually this will stop.
The race is on between America and a European country to finally admit it can’t pay it’s debts.

On top of that, the wars and instability being caused is creating mass migration of people looking for a better way of life. So when ‘immigrants’ turn up expecting a little help, everyone forgets how well off they have been in the past and the fact they are also ‘children’ of migrants themselves.
These poor people have seen the media and ‘adverts’ stating America and Western Europe are the richest and best places to live in the world, especially as they have accumulated so many of the worlds resources over the decades/centuries.
(See the TV and movies that sell you the ideal lifestyle, as opposed to the News which is designed to keep you in fear and looking for answers/protection from the Govt.)

OK, I think I’m ranting now so let’s get back on track.

So what is likely to happen next?

The bankrupt Governments can’t continue printing money at these rates to put into the stock market and interest rates only have one direction to move. When that happens and the markets contract, the stock market bubble and property (real estate) bubble will deflate as well.

My guess is that there is about 1 year (maximum) to get your investments in order and get ready to stick it out for the long term. The first signs will be from America or a defaulting European country in the next few months before it goes mainstream.

What can you do to hedge yourselves against it happening?

– Sell any properties that are highly leveraged right NOW, which are bringing in a low yield.
When interest rates increase and prices drop, these are the ones that will suck your cashflow and reserves dry.

– Don’t buy house for the sake of growing your portfolio (or because you want to move to a new house), only invest for yield with bigger deposits than you would normally want to put down.

– Leverage can work in your favour in an up trending market but it is even more dangerous in a down market.

– Speculators and those investing in new build, big blocks and the new bubble of student accommodation will likely be hit worse.

– Pay down as much as you can on your principle residence.

– Property and business is once again going to become about the long term sustainability as opposed to short term and quick returns.

I learned my lessons the hard way from experience 7/8 years ago. Fortunately I don’t have to repeat it this time. Will you learn from past experience or is another rude awakening required?

The good news is property will become more affordable for people to buy their own homes and there will be the opportunity to buy businesses based on income and yield, instead of simply speculating with borrowed money.

More information here:

Hit The Reset – UPW Power Walk


You ever get that feeling where things aren’t going to plan, you’re feeling tired and sluggish or you just need to hit the reset?

I’ve just started to walk more whilst listening to my mp3 player and the following track is AMAZING! (or Amaze-Balls as youngsters call it these days)

Playing Zombie Nation on continuous loop and going for a Power Walk will hit the reset and definitely get you charged up again ready to get back to what it is you need to do.

With a smile on your face and a spring in your step, people in the street will think you’re on a mission – heck, even YOU will believe your body is taking you on a mission!

WARNING: The power walk may turn into a run or even a dance-walk, with you chanting or mouthing “Woah Oh Oh Ohh…”  UPW’ers will know what I’m talking about with all those positive anchored feelings.Anyway give it a go and let me know what you think.

Does it clear your mind, give you more energy and make you feel ‘Tony The Tiger’ GRRR-E-A-T?
This one goes out to my UPW family and mia famiglia Italiana!

You can paste the youtube link into http://www.youtube-mp3.org/ and download the mp3 😉
This post is 100% Tony Certified and Approved!